This Mother's Day, make sure you're Moms's favorite (by giving her a custom birthstone necklace)
So, I don’t know if you know this about me, but I’m the oldest of four siblings (that’s my own mom’s custom birthstone necklace as the “four birthstone” sample!). Four siblings with a wide age spread and a veritable potpourri of neurodivergences and trauma responses of both diagnosed and undiagnosed varieties. You might have some assumptions about what that means that I’m the oldest daughter of such a large and unruly brood.
Your assumptions would be wrong.
Despite VERY MUCH suffering from debilitating oldest-daughter syndrome (I get the honor of being the very first child/grandchild/niece on two very differently generationally traumatized ancestral lines!!!! This is very fun and not stressful at all!!!!), I am absolutely not the password child. Or the favorite. Or even the comic relief/mascot. My generational trauma archetype lies somewhere between scapegoat and glass child. I’m not angry or bitter about this, I’m just very self aware that I was born into an unfortunate combination of “raised by literal children, one of which was an addict, in a cult” and “even the adults back in those days didn’t know little girls could have autism I really don’t think having adult parents would have even helped also OF COURSE traumatized people end up in cults.”
Honestly if my therapist isn’t writing a book to capitalize on the unhinged-ness of my sessions I’m going to be very disappointed in her.
Now, the purpose of that lil trauma dump was to give you some background on why you need to listen to me about what I’m going to say: while I have never been successful at becoming mom’s favorite, because rather than being a reliable and impressive oldest daughter (because I am the sibling that always has a stupid emergency, my next youngest sister is the sibling that fixes emergencies), I DO know a lot about what moms like and don’t like.
My spicy brain has been watching my moms reactions as I miss the mark with gifts my entire life and then ANALYZING THAT DATA TO FIND THE PATTERNS. Also, I like to think I’ve picked up some valuable insight on what moms like through my tenure as being a mom myself.
For example:
moms love gifts that are personalized and remind them of their kids (but not all moms like things with monograms or pictures so this one can be tricky)
moms like things that are useful and not going to create clutter but ALSO are not reminding them of their role in domestic labor (unless a household appliance is SPECIFICALLY ASKED FOR avoid this at all costs)
moms like things that are for THEM not the benefit of the whole family at their expense (I’m looking at you, brunch with small children)
and most importantly, moms want EFFORT and PLANNING, not last minute afterthought (trust me we can tell).
This can put a lot of us, especially the older we get and the more Mother’s days we’ve already gotten gifts for and thus want to avoid repeating, in a tough situation trying to find just the right thing.
Lucky for you, I have gotten good enough at SEO that the algorithm has heard your query for “customizable Mother’s Day gifts from small businesses” (I am very proud of you), because my custom birthstone necklaces are exactly the thing that meets every single one of those qualifications:
It’s personalized, but in a subtle way.
It’s pretty and functional, but not a tool for domestic labor.
It’s literally just something nice for her and her alone.
It’s from a small business and you had to order it early, showing how much you prioritized your Mother’s Day shopping.
I have options for one, two, three, or four birthstones, AND the chain can be silver or gold.
Damn, this oldest daughter syndrome and atypical strength at recognizing abstract patterns is really coming in handy.
Now, if you are deciding to go this route for your mom (or your partner, or yourself) and you want this to make it in time for Mother’s Day gifting, there is something you need to keep in mind:
These necklaces are made-to-order and they do take time to ship. So in order to be SURE that your necklaces will arrive in time, please get them placed by Friday, May 3, 2024.
Before you order though (because I have convinced you that your mom needs a handmade birthstone necklace, haven’t I?), I want to give a couple more pro tips to solidify your spot for as Mom’s favorite:
If you don’t have a chance to snoop through her jewelry, at least check some recent photos of your mom to make a note of which metal she prefers. My birthstone necklaces come in both solid .925 sterling silver AND 14k gold filled, and we want to make sure mom is getting a necklace she will WEAR.
I CAN add a personalized note addressed to your mom if you’re having me ship the order directly to her, just shoot me an email with the necessary info and I will make it happen.
Now, go forth and do what I have never been able to accomplish, and stake your claim as the favorite child.
